This blog post is not a story, yet it’s the story of every
woman living in this world. It’s straight from my heart and I am sure every
girl can associate with this.
So it all started with a post on one of my Facebook contact's wall, where this guy suggested women species to stay in their limit and not
behave like bonds. Otherwise crime like Guwahati is bound to happen.
Yes as a woman I took it as an insult but more than that I
was fuming because I was shocked with the fact that such a post is coming from
an educated youth of today.
What has happened to our country? Why are we behaving like
beasts? The Guwahati case was in extremes so it picked up that much outrage.
But, what about all that outrageous humiliation that we go through on daily
basis?
Is molestation only considered when a man touches you and
tries to attack you with an intention to rape you? What about the mental rape
that most of these men do with their eyes and expressions.
This guy said we girls need to stay in limits. But who set
those limits and why have such limits been set? Also to what extent can we stay
in limits?
A girl sitting in a bus is touched by a man sitting behind
her, is it her fault? Or a girl walking down the street and this man coming
from the opposite side tries to bump into her literally whispering in her ears
some lewd words, is this the fault of this girl as well? Or your boss undressing you with his eyes that you actually feel ashamed of being a girl… Certainly this is
the fault of girls I guess then *Smirk*
These are just common examples of the kind of mental rape /
molestation/ harassment we girls go through every day. But when we share this
with people, they come back and say “It’s the fault of you girls”.
For how long will we girls have to go through this kind of
shame for being the most beautiful creature made by GOD? A woman is a mother, a
daughter a sister, a wife…. But in the eyes of men we are just the object of
the three letter word.
I would like to quote here the comment of that young guy “tis
is truth, if that girl have taken all security precautions, chances r that this
problem may not happen like calling her parents/frnds to take her bak hme, or
shld go in a group or with her frnd instead gng alone. so here fault is
nt f boyz bt f system, f girl, society, f her parents, f police, f alchol.”
I have not changed a letter in this quote and one can see
how clearly this young educated man has blamed the entire world but his own
species.
Somewhere in our country, khaps are imposing rules like
women below 40 cant venture out of home alone, they can’t keep cell phones.
They are not safe outside, but are they really safe at home? What about all
those women who go through abuse at home by their relatives. Is that the fault
of a girl too??
My question is, Why do we women have to live such a
restricted life? Why can’t we be as free as men? Why can’t we girls think of
going out for a night drive all alone, enjoying the silence of the night? Why
can’t we women sit under the stars in a park all alone without having the fear of being attacked? WHY can’t we enjoy simple joys
of life? If after a long and tiring day at work, I want to go out and unwind why do i need a man with me? If I have no male companion, do I not get the right to unwind and relax?? Why can't I go out alone with my girl friends and dance my worries out? WHY?
For all the above we all know the answer is simple that we
can’t do all these things because we might become victim to a shameful act
committed by MEN.
SO IS IT REALLY OUR FAULT IF ITS THE MAN WHO IS ON PROWL EVERY WHERE? WHY ARE WE BEING BLAMED, LIMITED
AND CONFINED TO A LIFE THAT IS NOT WORTH LIVING?
Is there really an answer to this question????
Or a dream to live freely will remain a dream forever??
